When you long for love, acceptance, and kindness and don’t get it, you experience pain. This can happen from childhood caregivers as well as adult relationships. Rejection hurts! After a while, our brain associates love with pain.
Unfortunately, when this happens it is tempting to keep others at arm’s length in a self-protective stance. When someone loving comes along, we become suspect of their kindness…we don’t believe them…we are afraid that they will go away…bottom line, we don’t believe we deserve to be loved! Even though these behaviors are self-defeating, they are understandable. Your ‘survival brain’ is actually attempting to protect you from further pain.
The good news is…you can learn how to manage the discomfort of getting the love you have yearned for! You can learn how to be available so that when an available person shows up you can receive their gift of acceptance!
I know many of you reading this have prayed for someone to love you. My question is…will you be ready to receive when God grants you what you have asked for?
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Until next time,
Blessings, Deb