Change
Sometimes distress can lead us to life giving change. Even then, change is hard. In fact, I frequently tell my clients that until the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change, it will be tempting to stay on the familiar path. Every living thing is changing. If it is not growing, it is dying.
People committed to emotional growth are some of the bravest people I know. They are willing to embrace ‘good’ pain; the kind that serves a purpose. Conversely, those committed to the status quo typically do not embrace pain. Instead, they endure pain because they are resisting growth.
In this spirit of change, I have decided to change what I am putting energy into. Rather than doing a monthly blog post, I am dedicating this time on creating specialized retreats for couples. As I put my heart into this endeavor, I am believing God to use what I have learned from my pain of a failed marriage, to serve His purposes.
If you are in a relationship and as a couple would like to discover what it requires to have a love that lasts, please contact me. Together, we will look at patterns that often create ‘bad’ pain; the kind that keeps you stuck. Then in a safe environment, with other couples that want to grow, we will look at God’s blueprint designed to build thriving and fulfilling relationships.
Until then, if you are distressed, take heart. Paul's encouragement to the Corinthians still applies today; ask God to use your current state of distress to begin the change process. When you change the way you think and act in a way that honors Him, you will have no regrets.
Blessings ~ Deborah